Holiday

Vacation is a time of doing funny things and relaxing. Discovering cities, being active in nature and see new cultures. However, with a burn out, that is often a different story.

 

You have some energy, but vacation is really another story. Keep in mind that: a campsite, with children, bad food, bad sleep, driving far and irregularities takes a lot of energy. 

 

The place of your holiday (read the part about driving a car) and the accommodation (pitching a tent, inflating air mattresses, cooking on a gas burner, noisy neighbours, etc.) are also things to think about. A hotel is nice and seems convenient, but here to something is expected of you. You must adapt to a different bed, different food, different shower, different light and sound, neighbours’ noises. You have no place to retreat and what do you do when it rains, or you just want to hang out for a bit?

 

Also keep in mind that you used to come back satisfied, but tired, from Berlin or Roque sur Ceze. Will this also work out in your new situation? You have almost no energy, so a heavy vacation?

 

Own experience

After half a year of burn out and some energy again, we went to a campsite in France, the Vosges. We had booked a beautiful, new mobile home, 700 km from home. A good idea on paper.

 

The journey there was already too much. After 2 hours of driving (in Liège) my body started to mutiny. We drove to the campsite on my gums. I thought, once we get there, I can recover. Once at the campsite it turned out that we were in the middle of nowhere. With 3 teenagers in a small mobile home and rain all day, that was a huge task. I couldn’t handle the stress, the crowds, and everything that came with it. We went back to the Netherlands after 4 days. It wasn’t good!!

 

Later that year we stayed in a house in Drenthe. We took a 6-person house instead of 4, which was just a little more space. The advantage of a house: you sleep in a bed, when it rains you are dry, the kids can swim and the car ride there is short.

 

It was a lot more expensive than camping in a tent and more boring than Berlin or London, but relaxed. And most important, I was able to maintain my rhythm.

 

What is positive?

The moment you are in a house, you can see how taxable you are. Can you come to the village or not? Are you going to join doing groceries? For example, if the children are in the pool, you can read or do something else for yourself. Etc.

 

Tips:

1.   Consult with those with whom you are going on holiday, how you are going to approach this. Test your expectations together.

2.   Stay in your country. Here everything is close by, recognizable and therefore less burdensome.

3.   Choose as much comfort and REST as possible.

4.   Choose an accommodation where you can withdraw.

5.   Go with as few people as possible and preferably with people who are close to you.

6.   Forget group travel for a while.

7.   Active holidays (hiking, retreats, etc) that’s too early now

8.   City trips are still too intense

9.   Holidays, “looking for yourself” etc. can you handle that? Maybe not

10.               Provide an escape. So, you can go home in an emergency. 

 

Keep it going it will be fine!!

The story about the Vosges really happened and I thought: this is not going to get any better. This summer vacation we spent 2 weeks in Rotterdam. Driven through Rotterdam by car, no problem. 

 

We had also thought of going to the Alps in the second half of the holiday. We used to drive in one go, now we wanted to make a stopover in Strasbourg. We didn’t do that because of Corona, but the idea that we go on holiday smarter is a result of the burn out.

 

In short: going on holiday with a burnout is possible, but provided that it does not cost too much energy and that there is an escape. Otherwise, I would advise you to stay at home and take day trips from here.