If you’re having a good day, your daily walk can be shifted to a shop to do a small errand. Pay attention to the choice of the store. In many cities and towns, you have larger shops. Those stores are a collection of many stimuli: sounds, smells, many people, many products and many choices.
At some stores you have the feeling of being in an amusement park. With even more colours, noise, hassle and bustle. At this stage of your recovery, these stores are a no-go. Seriously don’t go there!!
Choose a small store nearby. Easy, close and you’ll be out in no time.
I mostly went to the local shops. The bakery around the corner, the Turkish shop and the greengrocer. Then I met people. Often friendly people and everything has been in the same place in such a store for years. Very handy because then I didn’t have to search. The range of products is also smaller, so the choice stress was much less.
I went to a Turkish barbershop (perfect invention for the man). There you will be cut and then you can go again. No semi-mandatory conversation, advice, rattles, coffee, fun, etc. No, just cut and go.
The time is also a point of attention. It is always very busy on Saturday mornings and Friday afternoons. Tuesday morning at 10am is a smarter choice, as is the evening after 7pm.
Shopping has really gone wrong for me a few times. That I walked through the store with clammy hands, and I wondered at the peanut butter: why do we have 20 kinds of peanut butter? With a heart rate of 160 and the sweat under my armpits I fled the store as quickly as possible.
I saw that as learning moments. Moments when my body indicated a limit. I went to listen to that.
What is positive?
Grocery shopping adds value to your day. You also meet other people, and especially at the smaller shops there is room for a chat. In addition, a shop is a good indicator of where you are in your recovery. If things aren’t going so well, you’ll notice it right away. You then turn around and leave.
1. Go when you feel you can and if it doesn’t feel right, don’t go.
2. Go at times when it is quiet.
3. Avoid big stores, XL, garden centres, etc.
4. Find the local entrepreneur. This builds a bond, is calmer and you talk to someone.
5. Make sure if you don’t go, it’s okay.
6. If you notice in the store that it doesn’t work, just leave.
7. Put calm music (read meditation apps) on your ears.
8. Go to a Turkish hairdresser (great tip!!)
9. Some stores have a delivery service. You can use that.
Keep it going it will be fine!!
Now I can go shopping again. On Saturday morning by the XL, no problem. But still, I remain careful. Even though I have energy again, I think it’s a shame to spend my energy on that.
I still plan it in such a way that the groceries can be done at a quiet moment. In a quiet supermarket and I keep looking for the local entrepreneur. I’m trying to turn a red zone into a green one (read also plans).
You should also consider that even for people who do not have a burn out, shopping (in an XL) is a huge drain on their energy. So that you can’t do that now…that makes sense.
In time you will be able to do that again, for sure. Although I think you to will find the crowds annoying. Even when you’re better!!