Chores

Before your burn out, you were able to do (simple) chores. Fix tires, garden, paint doors, etc. Now that you have a little more time, it can be tempting to do that to. Also remember that your energy is still low and that even simple jobs require energy. After all, you must think, plan and then execute it. 

 

The larger jobs such as tearing down the bed, painting the ceiling, tackling the room, etc. cost a lot more energy. Not only while thinking, but certainly in execution, be careful with that as well. You must go to the hardware store and take the wrong screws. Or you forget that water-based paint and paint based on turpentine do not go together, etc. It causes so much unrest and mess that is not wise. 

 

Also having a handyman or a friend / family member to come. That seems a good idea but can be stressful. You must consult with him about how, when and what. 

 

Your daily rhythm is broken. It makes noise and hassle. Maybe the result is disappointing and what do you do then? 

 

Own experience

After sitting at home for a while, I decided to tackle the children’s rooms. Painting walls, wallpapering, replacing beds, etc. At first, this seemed to go quite well. But after about 3 days I started to get a stomach-ache (stress) and I noticed that it was too much in my head.

 

In the end I did get the rooms finished, but after that I had a lot of trouble with it for a few days. I got a sever backlash.

 

I gave smaller jobs to others as much as possible. Changing the lamp, raising the saddle, adding salt, etc. Anyone can do that. We have three teenagers walking around, so change a lamp once, sweep the sidewalk, paint a door, they can do that too. 

 

Some things I outsourced. Cycling to a bicycle repair shop, having a chimney done, car through the car wash, etc. Keeping up with the garden, I limited that to having my son mow the grass.

 

What is positive?

 

Most jobs seem urgent, but they are not. You may feel pressure from your family to tackle or do something. But it is often not necessary. something needs to be done, see if you can outsource it, but don’t do it yourself!!

 

Tips:

1.   Outsource what you can.

2.   Don’t start a big job and be careful with a small job.

3.   When people start helping you with a job, think about the impact this will have on your recovery.

4.   Also keep in mind that many jobs are not necessary.

5.   Also, don’t work elsewhere, with friends or family. That is very tiring.

 

Keep it going it will be fine!!

Before my burn out I was quite a handy man. I could do everything, paint, tile a bathroom, build a wall, repair a bicycle, you name it. But during my burnout I couldn’t do that anymore. I just didn’t have the energy for it anymore.

 

I also realized that many jobs are not always necessary. We live in a house from 1926, so 100 years old. Whether or not I paint the gutter in 100 years, our house will still be there. What I’m saying is you really need to ask yourself what happens if you don’t do a job. Does someone else do it then (your adolescent children) or nobody and is that also good.

 

In the long run you will have room to do odd jobs again and then to wonder whether it is necessary, that is complete profit.