To see where you are leaking energy or where you are gaining energy, I advise you to make a daily planner. You write on a piece of paper what will cost energy, in red. And what energy produces in green.
Green and red can be different for everyone. So, emptying the dishwasher is red, then drinking tea is green. Colleagues visiting is red, but reading the newspaper afterwards is green. Walking is (in the beginning) red, then sleeping is green.
This gives you insight into your daily rhythm and you will realize that certain choices are unwise. That you can make better choices.
This planner makes you calmer and gives you a grip on your recovery
At the hardware store I had bought a plexiglass plate. The size of an A4 sheet of paper and a few white board markers (red and green), erasable. I wrote the day at the top of the sheet of paper. Then I described what I was going to do. I did that on time and by colour and in keywords.
At the end of the day, I evaluated what went well and what went wrong. This gave me an overview. This allowed me to make better choices. And I became a little calmer.
What is positive?
You learn what is and isn’t possible and you feel that you can make choices. Right and wrong. You also notice that you start to get a grip on the process because you gain an overview and that, very slowly, you become more and more in control of yourself.
1. Plan green zones in the day. A period where you get energy. Zones where nothing is necessary. Time for you!!
2. Plan red zones. A period that will cost energy. And think about how you deal with this. Are they necessary, or can you limit them, someone else can do it? In other words: “should it be? should it now? and should you?
3. Evaluate the schedule at the end of the day so you can see the development.
4. Am realistic in planning, don’t want too much
Don’t give up!!
With good planning you can take big steps. You get more and more in the grip of burnout.
Even now, 2.5 years later, I still sometimes make a schedule.
To see if I’m not overshooting. It really helped me.